What do you think?

I believe that life begins at conception. So, where does that leave us with IVF? I know, tough topic, right? Now you know what it must be like in my head these last few days. You need to understand that I want to be a mother more than anything else. God has already granted me my dream of being a wife, now I'm begging Him to allow me the chance to be a great mother.

So, you see it's not important how I become a mother.

So, back to my question: What do you think God thinks about IVF? I've read a few articles about Christian beliefs vs ART. I don't like that after conception takes place, the chances of death are greater than the chances of life with IVF. So, does that mean that the only way J and I will have a baby is through adoption? Are we being punished for past sins by not being allowed even a chance be "natural parents"? And since J is so hell-bent on going through the IVF process, how do I propose this to him without dishonoring him?


Disclaimer: This was written as a question to all you who read and/or follow my blog. Even if you are stopping in just once and happen to get this thick entry, please leave a comment. I'd like to know what you all think. TIA!


Joy said...

Kate- I'm afraid I don't have any answers for you except to continue to pray about this and examine your heart. What I do know is God does not punish us with infertility. He doesn't work that way. I don't know who to blame it on, maybe just this imperfect world and our human condition. I will continue to pray for the two of you to find your path and gain peace with this issue.

Shanny said...

This is a really really tough one!

I can't sit here and say that its very natural to have a baby through IVF because its what situation life put you in and this is the answer you got. Its science either way. What I can say is that I believe that no matter how you go about it, the baby will be and is naturally yours. Be it adoption or IVF.

What I truly believe? And please don't anyone flame me, is that God is the one who gave us the answer of IVF to begin with. And if its your egg and his sperm.. its still natural... assisted... but natural. If you can have a shot of having your own kids, why not go for it? Sorry I know I'm not helping what you can say to J :-/

Whatever you both decide, I hope that God does show you "your" way. Good luck!

Mrs. Pink Pearls said...

I have to agree that this is a tough one. I do think its natural. Like the previous poster said, its his sperm and your egg. You just need help getting them two to meet. I believe its still natural. I believe that God aided in the findings of IVF. It didnt fall out of the sky. But I believe he was able to give someone else the ability to help find it and therefore use it.

Im not sure this makes sense but I hope it does. A mother does not have to be the person who brought you into this world. A mother is someone who takes cares for you, loves you, and makes you the person you want to be. You will be a mother Kate. You will.


Anonymous said...

I to believe that IVF is just another aid in life. My nephews are from IVF, it does not matter. Mrs.PP is right the discovery of IVF didnt fall from the sky.
I contiue to pray for you Kate, you will be the best mommy ever. You deserve it Kate, everyone deserves that chance.

Mrs. BZ said...

I've been thinking about this lately only because I have been thinking the worst since my last RE appointment. I can understand both sides of the issue but am agreeing with you in regards to having the chance to have your own child. It's still yours and your DHs. It may be the answer that you have been praying for. I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers MK.

Katy said...

Kate - God is in no way punishing you for past sins. He died for those sins to be washed away - and as long as you ask Him for forgiveness, no matter the sin, no matter when it was...he forgives and washes you clean.
A baby is a pure miracle in itself. God creates, molds and forms that baby. Not science, not doctors, but God. I truly, and wholly believe this. There is not a doubt in my mind that no matter how you get that baby - Naturally, IVF, even adoption...it is created for YOU by Him.

You know I am always praying for you.

I cry out to God Most High, to God, who fulfills his purpose for me.
Psalm 57:2

Heather Cara said...

You have said that you have put this in God's hands. So in doing that, any "resultss" come through him. Whether that involves medical personal to assist or through another (adoption), he made that happen to bless you with a child. I have a son I did not give birth to (my DH's), but I am no less his Mama then if I had carried him for 9 months. He is mine and I am his and I know, without a shadow of doubt, that he is a gift from Him. Just as He brought DH to me, He brought this little bonus package with him for me to love and mold and raise. I can't wait for the day you hold your LO...you continue to be in my prayers...